And then there was Rob.........

So after a few months passed and I healed from the douche named Matt i decided to give online dating a whirl. I was skeptical so i signed up for a free site to start and on a bored March night I sent an e-mail to a guy named Rob...... Just before Rob there was a guy who I talked to for a few days to detour for a second. He kept telling me he didn't want to tell me his whole story until he had the chance to meet me in person but after three days of insisting, NOW I KNOW WHY. He had been married and she beat him up, left him, he moved in with his boss, had an affair with his wife, tried to kill himself and was living on a couch currently....... Not the type of "together lifesytle" I'm looking to entertain as a potential mate. Ok, back to the topic. Rob. We talked back and forth for a few days, he was complimenting and very persistent to meet up for dinner. We set a date for sunday and i didn't hear from him all day.... an hour before we were to meet i get a text asking to reschedule because he was still at his sisters house closing with her. So the next night after work we meet. We must have talked for three hours about so much. But nothing too personal with him. In fact looking back, i had to DIG all of the personal information out of him I ever got. Come to find out, small world, he grew up and still lived across the street from a High School friends parents. Yep, thats right. At 36 he still lived at home and HIS PARENTS paid his bills.... that should have been my warning sign to leave. But i proceeded with caution. It was never enough, he wanted to see me every other day. And it was scary but then got to be nice. He would never stay over during the week, and because he lived at home we were always at my house. He always paid and then would occasionally make side comment about it even though I offered. He met my family, my mom and sister both didn't see him as the "type of guy i would date". My friends that met him really liked him. After about a month of dating he sent me an e-mail one day at work with an image inside saying "I think i <3 you with all my <3. I can't get you out of my head". I wasn't ready to say I love you, because i wasn't sure i loved him and he understood said lets not get caught up in the vocabulary and just enjoy what we have. Which i really liked and admired. Time went on and things got better. He went on a work trip for a few weeks and was only home on the weekends but made a point to see me each time he was home. At the end of the three weeks of adventures he came over that Friday night and we celebrated his birthday. I was so happy to see him and I was ready to tell him I loved him. SO i said it in a card, it wasn't exactly the reception I wanted he laughed and was like i'm not sure i'm ready to say it, mocking my initial response a month prior but did say it back and we had a nice night together. The next morning after breakfast he left and went to see his son, i didn't hear from him that day which was normal when he was with his son. Then that night nothing.... or the next morning. He texted me in the afternoon that he had his son overnight and was sorry he hadn't texted me and would call me later when he dropped him off. Finally around 7PM i get a text that he was still there that the mom wanted to move and take his son and just had told him and things weren't going well. I sent him a text that night letting him know i was thinking about him and went to bed. The next day i got a text around 2PM saying he was sorry he was just depressed and would call me later. I asked to make him dinner since i had gotten steak the night before cause i thought he was going to come back over and he said Tuesday because he wanted to fill his mom in on everything. Tuesday morning i got an email asking to push back dinner to Wednesday because he needed to see his sister because they got bad news and he would call me later. He finally called me that night and to keep family out of it his sister was getting bad news about her child and I felt horrible for them. We talked and he said he would be over the next night for dinner. Wednesday comes and goes. Multiple texts and calls ALL go unanswered. Days go by with no communication. Finally the next monday i call him at work, after trying everything else but driving to his house. He answers says he cant talk but will call me in a few minutes and he has just been depressed it has nothing to do with us....He texts to say he will call at lunch, emails at lunch he will call later and so on and so forth. I send him a long long text saying i know he is going through alot, i want to be here for him. I love him and i am here when he is ready to talk. After another week of no communication I text him on Monday asking if he wanted to still go to the baseball game i got him tickets to for his birthday that Thursday and the psycho texts me back that he is getting on the plane to fly home from his work trip and will "call you later sweetie when i get home :)" I get excited thinking maybe all he needed was time alone. He does call..... i get a text at 10:30 that he was still on his way home to go to bed and we will talk the next day sweetie with 10 smileys. He doesn't call....... I find out some sad news pertaining to MY family life and text him to tell him, still no response. I call at work the next day finally JUST FED UP. I told him i assume from him not calling he didn't want to go to the game, and he said no don't assume that. Saying he cant talk at work and he will call me in 10....... I'm still waiting for that phonecall. I have finally come to terms with it and the fact that he is a POS. I saw his profile floating around on the online site a few weeks later tagline "I know what i want" HAHAHA, is that so? So ladies beware of Rob Bates, he doesn't know what he wants..... except that he likes being pampered by mommy.