Really.... in a TEXT?!

I know I'm not exactly a free spirit, and I'm a little reserved. But I just think a D*%& pic is a bit much. I haven't met you in person. We haven't had a moment of connection yet, so no, I don't want to see your member. Am I wrong? Maybe I am a prude? I just really think i'm not cut out for this whole dating thing.....

I almost forgot.....

I am STILL in contact with Kentucky. He even told me that I am who he wants to date when his "upcoming out of town jobs are over"..... I told him I don't' wait around.

To the present..... Paul

So i have talked about the past guys that have been in and then out of my life. This is present time. I met Paul on an online site, that i will not name, and emailed him really not expecting anything out of it. He replied right away that he was happy i messaged him saying that he wanted to message me but he hadn't known what to say. We talked for a few days, within the first 5 days we talked for over 6 hours on the phone..... one conversation lasting 4 HOURS. I can't remember the last time i did that. Turns out he grew up hanging out with a girl I work with some so i knew he was at least real and existed. We went out the day before 4th of July. We met for Sushi, went Bowling and then to see fireworks. It was probably the best first date i have ever had. He opened the car door, we kissed in the parking lot for a half an hour after he took me back to my car. It was amazing. We planned on getting together again the next night to go see fireworks. While we didn't go see them we did have a nice evening at his apartment hanging out and getting to know one another more. I even cooked him dinner that Sunday. We have been talking a little during the weeks and have seen each other once a week for the last month. Things are good when we are together but anyone who knows me knows that I LIKE reassurance and just talking to someone and being with them, more than once a week. I'm not sure where this will go, but it has potential..... On our last date Sunday he paid, even after i offered to get the movie tickets, and secured the next date while we were at dinner. WE talked for almost an hour AFTER dinner in the parking lot. Kissed me goodnight. WE get along really well and we have good chemistry.... i guess I have to wait and see if I am what he is looking for..... Sunday we go hiking..... this should be amusing! I promise not to lapse in postings anymore. Until next time Bloggersphere.

The hiccup in online dating....

JOSH! He is the ultimate mistake. I fell for his words, his connection with everything I said I wanted. He sounded like the perfect guy..... We talked for a few day,s about everything. We seemed so compatible. We scheduled a date for Sunday, the day before my birthday. He said good morning and then nothing else until the next day. The next morning he tells me that he went to the grocery store and came home to his house on fire. He sent me pictures, told me details about the irony since he was a fireman in the Navy, and how he questioned his roommates..... Even played into it all the next day about going shopping for all new clothes. We had scheduled another makeup date for Wednesday..... as I am leaving the garden from getting the Vegetables for our dinner my best friend who is ALWAYS looking out and skeptical of the men i meet, tells me she has something to tell me. She looks online and googles house fire, because she was skeptical of the pictures. DAMN IF SHE WASN'T RIGHT! The pictures were on the first page of the image search. From a 2008 house fire of 50 Cents baby mama. I let it settle for a few hours and then sent him this.....

Still waiting for his answer two weeks later.....

And then there was Rob.........

So after a few months passed and I healed from the douche named Matt i decided to give online dating a whirl. I was skeptical so i signed up for a free site to start and on a bored March night I sent an e-mail to a guy named Rob...... Just before Rob there was a guy who I talked to for a few days to detour for a second. He kept telling me he didn't want to tell me his whole story until he had the chance to meet me in person but after three days of insisting, NOW I KNOW WHY. He had been married and she beat him up, left him, he moved in with his boss, had an affair with his wife, tried to kill himself and was living on a couch currently....... Not the type of "together lifesytle" I'm looking to entertain as a potential mate. Ok, back to the topic. Rob. We talked back and forth for a few days, he was complimenting and very persistent to meet up for dinner. We set a date for sunday and i didn't hear from him all day.... an hour before we were to meet i get a text asking to reschedule because he was still at his sisters house closing with her. So the next night after work we meet. We must have talked for three hours about so much. But nothing too personal with him. In fact looking back, i had to DIG all of the personal information out of him I ever got. Come to find out, small world, he grew up and still lived across the street from a High School friends parents. Yep, thats right. At 36 he still lived at home and HIS PARENTS paid his bills.... that should have been my warning sign to leave. But i proceeded with caution. It was never enough, he wanted to see me every other day. And it was scary but then got to be nice. He would never stay over during the week, and because he lived at home we were always at my house. He always paid and then would occasionally make side comment about it even though I offered. He met my family, my mom and sister both didn't see him as the "type of guy i would date". My friends that met him really liked him. After about a month of dating he sent me an e-mail one day at work with an image inside saying "I think i <3 you with all my <3. I can't get you out of my head". I wasn't ready to say I love you, because i wasn't sure i loved him and he understood said lets not get caught up in the vocabulary and just enjoy what we have. Which i really liked and admired. Time went on and things got better. He went on a work trip for a few weeks and was only home on the weekends but made a point to see me each time he was home. At the end of the three weeks of adventures he came over that Friday night and we celebrated his birthday. I was so happy to see him and I was ready to tell him I loved him. SO i said it in a card, it wasn't exactly the reception I wanted he laughed and was like i'm not sure i'm ready to say it, mocking my initial response a month prior but did say it back and we had a nice night together. The next morning after breakfast he left and went to see his son, i didn't hear from him that day which was normal when he was with his son. Then that night nothing.... or the next morning. He texted me in the afternoon that he had his son overnight and was sorry he hadn't texted me and would call me later when he dropped him off. Finally around 7PM i get a text that he was still there that the mom wanted to move and take his son and just had told him and things weren't going well. I sent him a text that night letting him know i was thinking about him and went to bed. The next day i got a text around 2PM saying he was sorry he was just depressed and would call me later. I asked to make him dinner since i had gotten steak the night before cause i thought he was going to come back over and he said Tuesday because he wanted to fill his mom in on everything. Tuesday morning i got an email asking to push back dinner to Wednesday because he needed to see his sister because they got bad news and he would call me later. He finally called me that night and to keep family out of it his sister was getting bad news about her child and I felt horrible for them. We talked and he said he would be over the next night for dinner. Wednesday comes and goes. Multiple texts and calls ALL go unanswered. Days go by with no communication. Finally the next monday i call him at work, after trying everything else but driving to his house. He answers says he cant talk but will call me in a few minutes and he has just been depressed it has nothing to do with us....He texts to say he will call at lunch, emails at lunch he will call later and so on and so forth. I send him a long long text saying i know he is going through alot, i want to be here for him. I love him and i am here when he is ready to talk. After another week of no communication I text him on Monday asking if he wanted to still go to the baseball game i got him tickets to for his birthday that Thursday and the psycho texts me back that he is getting on the plane to fly home from his work trip and will "call you later sweetie when i get home :)" I get excited thinking maybe all he needed was time alone. He does call..... i get a text at 10:30 that he was still on his way home to go to bed and we will talk the next day sweetie with 10 smileys. He doesn't call....... I find out some sad news pertaining to MY family life and text him to tell him, still no response. I call at work the next day finally JUST FED UP. I told him i assume from him not calling he didn't want to go to the game, and he said no don't assume that. Saying he cant talk at work and he will call me in 10....... I'm still waiting for that phonecall. I have finally come to terms with it and the fact that he is a POS. I saw his profile floating around on the online site a few weeks later tagline "I know what i want" HAHAHA, is that so? So ladies beware of Rob Bates, he doesn't know what he wants..... except that he likes being pampered by mommy.

16 years of friendship..... apparently not a factor

So, this post has been a long time coming. I got side tracked with life and let's face it, WINE. (All of the events I am about to describe are from January) Last post I was happy and in love with an old friend thinking fate had really started to take the drivers seat in my life. Boy was I wrong. Matt and I hit the 6 month mark and everything went sour. His work ethic was honestly starting to drive me crazy, and paying for everything was making me BROKE. But that's a pattern i apparently fall into when I say I throw EVERYTHING into a relationship, I include the bank. One night after hanging out with friends we were chatting on the couch, things were good. And then he got a text, awkwardly went outside and I followed, his phone then rang...... It was this girl in New Orleans he claimed the whole time was just a friend. So answer it I said, but he wouldn't..... Because it wasn't a conversation he could have in front of me. He was planning to go see her in two weeks, to see if they really could work. A few months prior when he was supposedly having a "guys weekend" she was here visiting. I start to pry and yell and pry and cry.... only to find out what a fool i had been the last 6 months. He had been telling her he loved her and making plans to move there with her the ENTIRE TIME we were together. How could I have been so foolish? Over the next few weeks in talking to mutual friends and his friends SO MANY lies came out that it hurt less VERY fast. Let's just say you don't mess with the Queen of Baden and live to tell about it.... he has been excommunicated and now resides in New Orleans with his clueless GF.